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If you are not perfect and if you like hearing something like - “Perfection is such a costly idea well beyond the reach of the average human’s capacity and beyond every realistic sensation he can consume and stay stable”, then watch out I am coming after you.

I call this cost inflated, and every notion talking against the belief that flawlessness is not attainable, is speaking my language. It is but a myth that being perfect is impractical and has more of theory than reality. Now, keep this design aside. Let me say “it takes more than a lifetime to get in touch with absolute perfection”. I obviously understand this statement is clearly in contradiction to the above said bunch of just-sown-seeds. Allow me to take an indirect approach to what I intend to simplify, explain and elucidate to anyone who has ridiculed the initiative of being sagaciously realistic perfect with a dash of optimistic and heartily committed flexibility toward the life-picture surrounding his mental freedom.

As long as we know that whatever we know is the absolute truth and that there is no corollary beyond that belief’s working and energy, we are happy and satisfied for what we have known seems to be final. But the moment the next lungful of air says that there is more to it and we are ignorant of the incredibly forsaken facts and the real savoir faire, the peace of mind is destabilized and the uncomfortable desire to know the final is born. Not every person sees this kind of a psychological imbalance but those who like being satisfied and free of possible guilt do. The knowledge of being ignorant is fine but when someone says “I know that I do not know something”, the real fight begins.

And one such cognition we can nurture in our splendidly power-packed minds is that we can transform ourselves into whatever shape we want almost instinctively and in a blink. Here again I go in contrast to what many of us like to hear. When things like “I am happy whatever way I do things”, “why should I change myself?”, “Even if I want to change, I know it’s not easy and I won’t waste my time after it?” are said, all ears are caught attentive because these words sound sweet, and they directly touch our hearts. But the truth is that they simply put forth our mediocre nature openly. We all like being safe and love to see our lives in a ship encountering no rough seas.

When we honestly realize our need to become different from what we are, we create a new kind of energy inside our minds and this energy destabilizes our soul. It generates a new form of waves that immediately substantiate a root level change in the thinking area of our soul. This destabilization is for good because as long as it is there and it is growing we seek newer ways to fight it and reduce it, ultimately finding the right paths to take ourselves nearer to where we want to be. A change in our life is begotten only when this destabilization is encouraged and this in turn can happen when honest realizations are made.

A simple decision is all it takes - a very powerful and determined decision with cent-per-cent commitment. A resolution to mould our self into a new being, the way we want to be is required. Once decided half the work is done. But it’s not at all easy to get committed. For getting committed, inspiration and motivation are required and these are obtained only when success and progress in life are desired. And success and progress are desired only when endless satisfaction accompanied with happiness is sought. And of course for all this it is destabilization that helps – the call for more in life.

Once decided then comes the next step of becoming rigid and flexible to the present and real situations. This is because the change we ask for should be compatible with what exists in real life already. Becoming flexible includes accepting changes around us and not only around us but within us too. When the idea of changing is thought, it should never be taken that it is the other person who has to change to the situation, it should clearly be understood that change is mutual and change begets change.

Then is the process of learning self-existence and finding the area of self-existence. This is necessary and it makes us aware of the faults we have inside us – even the faults we ourselves are not au fait with. This takes a lot of effort on being honest and confident of our knowledge of ourselves. Critiquing ourselves, smiling at our own mistakes, admitting faults and allowing others to speak about us frankly helps us with this process and is as necessary as the whole mental work.

Once we know what we are and what we do, it can’t get more obvious that we need to work on the information we have obtained. The effort in correcting the mistakes is again lot dependent on the rigidity we can show in changing ourselves and all this is a state of mind and subsequently depends on the commitment we show towards the decision we have already made.

The above two steps can give enormous pleasure as the art of self-discovery is learnt and the growth of knowledge on our own behavior is very interesting. Constructive self- criticism is fascinating as it creates a world of enrichment of our soul. Once we are done with this, we are almost done with the change we want. If we still don’t see in us what we wanted to then it must only be that we have not made the right decisions at the initial point itself and there must be no doubt about that. Blaming others for not being able to help ourselves is just a blatant show of adolescent nature even grown-ups make.

It all starts with a choice we make. This choice is like a seed which grows into a big tree and gives fruits. It takes years and lots of nurturing and care. But we being humans always are different than any other creature that exists. Unlike the way we can’t change the tree that has already grown (science is advanced enough to induce required characteristics in the seeds and small plants but not in big trees), we definitely can change ourselves into whatever we desire to. It’s not a perspective you or I have, it’s just a state of mind and an effective decision made.

We all like to have a good image and want to make other people like us. But that requires a reason to make others like us. We need to become what others like without losing our own identity. It’s just in meeting people where they are. When we talk to small children we use simple language and even our tone of voice turns childish. It doesn’t means that we have become a child – we are just meeting that kid at a place where it is. When we talk to our equals, the same can be done. Of course ego has to be beaten here and again a decision is all it takes. It never means falling to a lower level from where we stand, it just means making that person comfortable or making him believe that he is or equal (if not above us).

Things change with time and history is evident of this fact. There were evolutions and revolutions but what made marks in the past 200 years are the revolutions because they have really made a difference to the way people live and die. The differences were socio-political and also in personal lives of people including their relationships with others. It might have taken decades to have these changes made of course and we can’t be patient enough to wait for all that to happen with time. We have to work out our lives for ourselves and keep moving spreading light rather than seeking light.

Revolutionalizing our lives is the need of the hour and again it is the decisions we take that make all the difference. We can’t wait for a life time to happen for ourselves to become perfect, all we have to do is to make many lifetimes happen in our single lifetime. It is all we have, a lot less than a century of life. And we live it cursing others for not being the way we want them to be, blaming others for what we couldn’t become or do in our lives. It’s so simple and easy to do all that. No one likes to take the burden of himself or herself, forget others. And we find clever ways of disdaining our true potential of being absolute perfects.

May be perfection is really not for humans. Why do we have that word then? To describe God? Well I don’t think so. The word ‘perfection’ exists so that we can achieve it and adore it; to strive for it and command it.

All this may well look philosophical and impractical, but as I have once written before, “it is for a man to convert theory into practice”. I won’t really override it here but I’d just add a few more words to it and say, “it is definitely only for a man of mental strength to convert logical and objectivistic theory into practice, and the one who does it, even a bit of it correctly, is perfect and has attained discipline and control in his life. If he has succeeded in getting along all this in combination with his religious fundamentals, then he is truly a man of marvel – a heroic being.”

For the above combination I have once used the word synergy. It means the interaction of two or more agents or forces so that their combined effect is greater than the sum of their individual effects.

I hope the message I had planned is conveyed!

© 2006 Zubair